8 Things to do on Sunday to Have a More Productive Week

It'll be here before you know it...the dreaded Monday morning! Are you ready for it? Are your kids ready for it? I genuinely enjoy Mondays now (because I have tricked myself into it over the years) and you can do the same! 

Mondays set the tone for your week and they do NOT have to be awful. These are a few simple ways you can get your life together on Sunday so your life, home, and family are happier and more peaceful tomorrow morning!

1. Clean up the house | Set a timer and make a game out of it with the kids if it helps, but get things picked up, put away and cleaned so you wake up to an organized home in the morning. Waking up to mess and clutter will set the mood for your day (week, month, LIFE). 
2. Get laundry done | Have the kids bring their laundry to the laundry room and sort it by lights and darks and get going. I have had my kids help (in some capacity) with laundry since they were about 3 or 4 years old. If they're old enough to do their own laundry now, even better! 
3. Meal plan and grocery shop for the week | I have meal cards and a meal board in my kitchen. It is nothing fancy, but it works! The meals are on the front and the ingredients are on the back so making a list for the store is super quick and easy. I let the kids and my husband pick some of the meals (selfishly because decision making is not my strength in life). 
4. Plan kids’ lunches | What days will they buy and what days will they take their lunch? Make your grocery list accordingly.
5. Plan (time block) your week | I use a day planner with daily times from 6 AM to 10 PM. Spend some time planning out your week. I use the time blocking strategy and it works well for me and my life. Look into it if you are struggling with time management. If you don't have a planner - GET ONE.  
6. Spend QUALITY time with your family | Try to have all of these other tasks done in the morning (yes, it can be done). Dragging it out through the day (most likely because you're being distracted) is not an efficient way to handle your to-do list! Get it done so you can enjoy your family! Go outside, go for a walk, play a game... There are so many ideas, but whatever your do, turn off your phone and tune out any other distractions. The only reason to work so hard on keeping things in order is so you can spend more time doing what you love with the people who matter most to you. 
7. Have clothes laid out for tomorrow | This goes for you and the kids. Having 2 daughters can be crazy in the mornings with hair, morning chores, and hormones (yikes). Taking finding the perfect outfit out of the morning ritual makes all of our lives much better. ;-) 
8. Get to bed in time to get 8 hours of rest | If you have an iPhone, you can set a bedtime alarm that will let you know it is time for bed so you get a full 8 hours. If you are a freak who requires less, you can set it accordingly... Also, I am envious of you! 

There you go! Give these things a try and see how it works for you. As always, OF COURSE there might be part of this that will not work for you and your family, so modify it... You know what you need to do! Now you just have to do it!

Happy SUNDAY! Have a GREAT week! 

Helping Our Kids Feel Safe and Injecting the World with LOVE

On February 15, 2018 (a couple days after a school shooting), our youngest daughter called me from school to tell me she was sick and needed to come home. I know the crud was going around, so I rearranged my day and went to get her. She cried and said her head hurt and her nose was runny so we made a quick list of “feel better” items and stopped by the store on our way back to the house. As we were headed home with our chicken and stars soup and Gatorade, Aspen said something that made me realize she’s not super “sick”, but that something was wrong...

“Mom? What happened at that school in Florida? Did someone kill people?”

I was kind of shocked and asked where she heard about that. She told me that her school did a moment of silence and that her teacher briefly explained what happened. To be clear, this is a wonderful school and she has a phenomenal teacher. Details were shared in an age-appropriate way! I might be wrong, but we don’t tell the girls these types of things and they don’t see them because we don’t watch the news with them around. It might be naive of us, but we haven’t quite figured out how to share the ugliness in the world in a way that won’t make them more jaded than young kids need to be. Regardless, she found out, which is ok, and she had questions. She asked if only grownups were killed... then she asked how old the kids were... then she asked who did it and if the cops got him... and then she asked why.

I answered everything honestly. I told her there were grownups and students hurt and killed and that the cops got the bad guy. I told her he will go on trial and the judge/jury will decide his fate. But I got stuck on the WHY question- the best I could tell her was that some people are sick, mean, hurt, and ugly on the inside and they do awful things. I also told her that even though there are bad people, to ALWAYS remember there are MORE GOOD PEOPLE than there are bad. I told her that growing up to be kind, loving, and friendly will be the best thing she can do to help fix the world.

As the conversation was winding down, we were pulling into our driveway and decided to check the barnyard. It’s was rainy day in Arizona and we like to make sure all the animals are ok! As we pulled around back we saw 2 of the horses laying down for a mid-morning rest and we decided to take the chance to go love on “her” horse, Charlie. Charlie was happy to see his little girl and soaked up the love, petting, and scratches! He closed his eyes and kind of melted into Aspen and she melted right back. I snapped a couple pictures randomly before our pony, Rocket, decided to demand my attention which forced me to put my phone down. I watched Aspen as I pet Rocket.... She was so happy.

Aspen wasn’t really so "sick" she needed to come home today, she was really sad and she was scared. Today she felt like she needed to be at home, where she is safe and where she is loved. She needed to ask me some questions and she needed me to make her feel better. As I sat there watching her with Charlie, I kind lost my emotional shit. Look at this innocent little soul we are responsible for raising and sending out into this world! So many thoughts ran through my head... I should homeschool the girls so they’re safe... but my husband and I both work at a college... we can’t lock ourselves away from everything (stores, movies, freeways, churches, schools...), there’s nowhere 100% “safe”. Then I got mad... Who is to blame for this?! What kind of a freaking world are we living in?! ..... Then I realized that BLAME doesn’t solve a damn thing. And that’s just what’s started, hasn’t it? Blame? “Guns are to blame, mental illness is to blame, school security is to blame, video games are to blame....” Here’s the reality folks- HUMANS are to blame. What the hell does that fix?! NOTHING!! Instead of blaming, go out and do something to FIX IT.

Can we fix everything? Nope- there will still be humans around and humans are inherently nutty, but it will inject the world with more GOOD and drown out some of this ugliness which is a WIN in my book!

So what can I/we do?! Well, I, for one, am going to love the heck out of my girls!! Our home will be a safe place for them. They’ll have parents who adore them and expect them to be kind and work hard and help others. They’ll be surrounded with our family and friends who have the same morals and values and they’ll continue to see that there is GOOD in this world. They will see that there is a God who watches them, loves them, and guides them. We will CONTINUE to shelter them from things WE feel aren’t appropriate for the intelligent, independent, self-confident young ladies we are trying to raise. We will show them how to give back without expecting anything in return. We will help them find their purpose! We will also help the students who come into our lives to find THEIR purpose. A purpose-driven life is what people need!! Help your kids (or volunteer to be a mentor if you don’t have kids) with that instead of blaming. People with purpose, heart, and grit don’t hurt others.

As I write this my Aspen girl is taking a little nap in her cozy, safe room. I told her we can go back out to check animals when she wakes up (animals are my therapy, too). I had some time to sit and reflect and write this while our home is quite and peaceful.... I’m far from perfect and there are things I need to do a better job of, so please don’t think that I think, I have it all figured out. I know I don’t.

If you read all of this, thanks. I’ll leave you with a quote that always makes me feel better. I hope it makes your heart happy, too. God bless the innocent lives lost, God bless you, and God bless this beautiful country!

“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, "Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.” To this day, especially in times of ‘disaster,’ I remember my mother’s words and I am always comforted by realizing that there are still so many helpers — so many caring people in this world.” (Fred Rogers